Don't settle for less than your King.
You're a beautiful, creative, ambitious woman, but you keep attracting unavailable men (aka narcissistic and Peter Pan types). You want a solid, quality man...a man you could have a baby with, but you feel exhausted, think time is running out, and you worry that you'll have to settle for less than the King you desire.
Ready to attract your King? Enroll in The Art of Queening now.
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Unintentional consequences of settling in relationship.
When you choose to betray your needs, you also choose...
Feeling unseen and unheard
Deception, lies, cheating
The not enough shame spiral
Recurring tension and conflict
Resentment, anger, loneliness
Disconnection, breakup, divorce
Never settle Queen...Attract!
Every time we censor our truth, stuff our emotions, or deny our needs—we disappear ourselves.
When you say it's ok but it's not, when you say it's fine when you're not, when you say yes, but you're actually a no...your sense of self starts to fades away, you begin to ignore your intuition, and you stop trusting yourself.
Over time this leads to overlooking green flags, ignoring red flags, compromising your needs and values, and settling for love crumbs. It's heartbreaking.
I call this pattern The Disappearing Act. It's a common yet outdated strategy for connection. The premise? I'm too much or not enough as I am, so I must become someone else to be wanted and get the love I want.
If The Disappearing Act is your default pattern in love, it's not your fault, you inherited it. But...if you're done settling, and ready to be with a solid, quality man, it is your responsibility to adopt a new MO.
This mistake is thinking you have to figure it all out on your own. I've mapped this one inside and out and I've got you Queen.
-Free Guide-
5 self-abondoning behaviors
that kill connection
Are you unwittingly pushing away the love you want?
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Ready for Act 2?
I call it...The Reappearing Act
When you reinstate yourself as the Queen you are,
you'll attract your King AND...
Feel seen and heard
Feel more trust and safety
Know that you're enough
Have less conflict/more repair
Feel confident and sexy
Feel more connection and play
Ready for your King?
Hi, I'm Jess Vega
Love coach, science nerd, and practitioner of Classical Tantra.
I get on well with truth seekers, deep thinkers, those who make beauty where ever they go.
I was born into a family rife with mental illness, drug abuse, and poverty. Ignoring my own needs was a useful survival strategy for little me, but this behavior soon became a pattern that unwittingly sabotaged my ability to experience the sex, love, and relationships I wanted.
I've been been mapping the link between authenticity and connection ever sense.
Not your BFF
I’m NOT the kind of coach who’s your BFF, but I’m not the bogeyman either. I’m your ally in love and a stand for the relationship you want to create. This means that I'll risk your approval in service to your dreams. At times, this will feel uncomfortable for both of us, but I guarantee that it will lead to more you and more connection ;)
Not your guru
I’m NOT the “just think positive...everything is love and light” woo woo guru coach. You're a rich and complex being, and a head in the clouds approach to growth is an insult to the complexity of your human experience down here on Earth. I'm a two feet planted firmly on the ground kind of coach who draws on the wisdom of Tantric spirituality, NVC, and hard science to get you results.
My commitment to you
Saying yes to a coaching relationship is a courageous act of self-love that deserves respect. If you're a yes, I commit to being:
- An assertive yet compassionate liaison between you and your blindspots.
- An ally who will challenge your thinking, keep you honest, and hold you accountable.
- A ride or die who creates the safe space you need to fully fall apart and come back to life.
Never settle Queen...
You deserve a King
Now let's make it happen!
✧ Get As to your Qs, choose a start date, make your payment
✧ A Queen sees green flags and doesn't over look red ones. She understands and honors her needs and values. Instead of self-sabotaging and pushing away the love she wants, she attracts and nurtures it.
✧ Feel safe, deeply loved, and inspired by your man...no settling.
Take the next step and...
The Universe doesn't make mistakes, it makes magic—aka you Queen!
You’re a unique expression of life happening exactly once. Do you know how perfect everything had to be for you to be you, here and now? Disappearing yourself in dating and relationship is exactly the opposite of what life wants for you. Go ahead...ask ;)
Playing some caricature of yourself...turning it up or down...in order to avoid conflict and maintain so called "connection," WILL sabotage your ability to create the life you actually want.
When you're ready to drop The Disappearing Act, own that you're a Queen, have your King. I'll be here to help illuminate the way ;)
Your To-Do list:
01. Enroll in the program
02. Learn how to Queen
03. Attract your King
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The Art of Queening
This 12 week 1:1 coaching program was designed for beautiful, creative, ambitious woman looking for their King, but keep attracting unavailable men (aka narcissistic or Peter Pan types).
If you want a solid, quality man... one you could have a baby with...but you feel exhausted, think time is running out, and you worry that you'll have to settle for less than the King you desire.
THIS program is for you.
How to fight smarter
Relationships can only survive conventional fighting strategies like defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling for so long. In How to fight smarter, you’ll learn a smarter way...so you feel clear, confident, and connected, even when shit gets hard.
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