The short answer…Cuz fuck performative love. We’re on this planet for such a short time. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
To hide yourself away, to loose yourself, and to put on a show to get some semblance of “love” is a bona fide pain in the ass and waist of my and your time.
There was a time in my life where I just became who everyone needed me to be, and let me tell you, it never got me the love I wanted. What a body numbing and soul sucking experience.
Sexual abuse and abandonment can do that to ya.
The long answer…check out the 8 minute video. Worth every minute.