And it begins with more you—not less.
Stop struggling to feel seen, heard, and met in love relationships. I'll teach you how to be seen clearly, so you feel deeply alive and connected with your current or future partner.
Riddle me this...
How can we ever feel seen, heard, and met in relationship if present ourselves as someone we're not?
We can't. Yet, our fears of rejection or punishment often lead many of us to be dishonest about who we are and what we need.
Sadly, this behavior costs us the satisfaction of feeling deeply alive and connected in partnership. But it doesn't end there... inauthenticity also leads to:
Questioning our enoughness.
Betraying personal boundaries.
Growing resentment and anxiety.
Distrusting ourselves or partners.
Feeling half alive.
Unsatisfying sex life
Ready to feel deeply alive and connected in partnership?
Every time we censor our truth, stuff our emotions, or deny our needs—we disappear ourselves.
When we say yes when we actually mean no, when we say we're fine but we're actually feeling insecure, when we say it doesn't matter when it sure as hell does—our sense of self slowly fades away, making it damn near impossible for us to feel seen, heard, and met in sex and love.
If you find yourself in this pattern, it doesn’t mean that you’re broken or that something’s wrong with you. It means you need a new MO. It's simple. If you want to feel deeply alive and connected in partnership, you've got to be more you.
But it's not easy. There's an art to being more you. You can't just do or say whatever the fuck you please and pass it off as authenticity. This gauche attempt at "speaking your truth" often creates division—not the allyship and collaboration you're ultimately looking for in relationship.
Being more you requires a sophisticated relationship with your body-mind. In other words, a clear sense of self. It also requires a refined ability to express your self clearly—be it through words or body-language.
Yep, there's work to be done to create clarity and congruency, but the ROI is absolutely worth the time and energy. Why? Because the more you appear yourself in relationship, the more alive you become. And consequently... the more alive you become, the more available you are for deep connection.
Take away: Censoring your truth, stuffing your emotions, and denying your needs is a recipe for everything you're tired of settling for in relationship...bad sex, broken record conflicts, feelings of insecurity...the list goes on.
Bottom line: If you want to feel deeply alive and connected relationship, you must take responsibility for becoming more you in love. The good news is—you don't have to go it alone.
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Being more you—your first class ticket the fuck out of love limbo.
Upgrades include:
Feeling at ease and alive in your body.
Clear boundaries = more trust.
Feeling agency over your love life.
Collaboration and allyship!
Fewer conflicts = more play.
Bowchickawowwow. Hello sexy time.
Ready for that relationship upgrade about now?
Hi, I'm Jess Vega
Sex and love coach, Tantrika, and former saboteur d'amour.
Not your BFF
I’m NOT the kind of coach who’s your BFF, but I’m not the bogeyman either. I’m your ally in love and a stand for the relationship you want to create. This means that I'll risk your approval in service to your dreams. At times, this will feel uncomfortable for both of us, but I guarantee that it will lead to more you and more connection in the end ;)
Not your guru
I’m NOT the “just think positive...everything is love and light” woo woo guru coach. You're a rich and complex being, and a head in the clouds approach to awakening and liberation tends to downplay the complexity of your human experience down here on Earth. I'm a two feet planted firmly on the ground kind of coach who draws on the wisdom of Tantrik spirituality and neuroscience to get you results in your sex and love life.
My commitment to you
Saying yes to a coaching relationship is a courageous act of self-love that deserves respect. If you're a yes, I commit to being:
- An assertive yet compassionate liaison between you and your blindspots.
- An ally who will challenge your thinking, keep you honest, and hold you accountable.
- A ride or die who creates the safe space you need to fully fall apart and come back to life.
Your 1st class boarding pass
Secure your ticket the fuck out of love limbo.
In this zero pressure call, we'll figure out which of my programs best suits your needs.
Get the support and proven techniques you need to see and be seen clearly in sex and love.
No more struggling to be seen, heard, and met in partnership.
Take the first step now by scheduling a call.
The Universe doesn't make mistakes, it makes magic—
aka you.
You’re enough. In fact, you’re a fucking miracle—a unique expression of life happening exactly once. Do you know how perfect everything had to be, for you to be you, here and now? Trying to comprehend the magic makes my brain go dumb.
More love wants to meet the magic that is you—it's the natural order of the Universe. But...you must be fully available to receive it. You must invest in being more you. If you keep disappearing yourself in love, you’re bound to keep attracting the wrong person or pushing the right person away...you're bound to feel unseen, unheard, and unmet in your relationships.
Key point: Love needs all of you, not some porn star or Betty Crocker version of you, ALL OF YOU. Turning it up or down to please or accommodate as a means to earn or win connection will inevitably sabotage your experience of sex and love.
Here’s what I know about you...
You're tired of settling for less than you need and desire in relationship. You're so over disappearing yourself and not getting the connection you desire. You're ready to feel deeply alive and connected with your current or future partner.
But I also know that you're the type who feels like you've got to figure everything out on your own. You're highly independent and gritty AF, and that has gotten you far. But know that you don't have to go this one alone. I've walked this walk, and I've got you.
When you're ready , here are the steps:
01. Schedule a call
02. Enroll in a program
03. Feel deeply alive and connected
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Which program is right for you?
Experience: Do you prefer casual, boutique, or luxe?Commitment: Are you feeling curious, dedicated, or devoted?Depth: Are you looking to make a shift, expand, or transform?
5 session package for singles/couples
3 month customized program for singles/couples
6 month customized program for singles/couples
Not sure what program is right for you? Schedule a consult below. We'll find the best solution for you...even if it means working with someone else.
How to fight smarter
Relationships can only survive conventional fighting strategies like defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling for so long. In How to fight smarter, you’ll learn a smarter way...so you feel clear, confident, and connected, even when shit gets hard.
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