Assertive communication = better sex and more love

It's that simple.

Tired of feeling unseen, unheard, or unmet in sex or love? I'll teach you how to express yourself with confidence & compassion so you can have better sex and more love with your partner.

Be more you — not less.

Riddle me this...

How can we ever feel seen, heard, and met in our relationships if we present ourselves as someone we're not?

We can't! Yet our fears of rejection or punishment lead many of us to deny or be dishonest about who we are and what we want.

Sadly, this leads to:

01.

Rarely feeling seen, heard, or met.

04.

Deception, lies, and cheating.

02.

Thinking you're too much/not enough.

05.

Unhealthy anger and frequent conflict.

03.

Feeling resentment, anxiety, and stress.

06.

Disconnection, breakup or divorce

Ready for better sex and more love?

The disappearing act

Every time we censor our truth, stuff our emotions, or deny our needs—we disappear ourselves.

When we say yes when we actually mean no, when we say we're fine but we're actually feeling insecure, when we say it doesn't matter when it sure as hell does—our sense of self slowly fades away, making it damn near impossible for us to feel seen, heard, and met in sex and love.

If you find yourself in this pattern, it doesn’t mean that you’re broken or that something’s wrong with you. It means you need a new MO. It's simple. If you want to experience true satisfaction in your relationship, you must appear yourself in relationship. This means you must: 

1) Recognize and accept who you are.
2) Speak who you are and what you want into existence. Aka assertively communicate your needs/desires in relationship.

I get it...it isn't easy...the fear of punishment or rejection can be a real bitch. But the ROI is absolutely worth it, because the more you appear yourself in relationship, the more alive you become; And consequently... the more alive you become, the more you'll be seen, heard, and met in sex and love.

Want more good news? You don't have to go it alone. I can teach you the art of appearing yourself in relationship, even if that reality feels far away right now.

"Working with Vega is what I'd hoped traditional therapy would be like — workable, doable, but also magical."
~ Lauren

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"Vega made it possible to communicate about our challenges and desires in a way that felt connecting and judgement free —our sex life has blossomed since."
~ Caitlin and Travis

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"Vega helped me to see that I could facilitate my partner showing up for me by showing up for myself."
~ Sam

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Assertive communication...
Your 1st class ticket to better sex and more love.

Upgrades include:

01.

Feeling seen, heard, and met.

04.

More honesty, trust, and security.

02.

Knowing that you're enough.

05.

Fewer conflicts and faster repair.

03.

Feeling confident and easeful.

06.

More connection and collaboration.

Ready for a truly satisfying relationship?

ME

Hi, I'm Jess Vega

Relationship coach, Tantrika, and former saboteur d'amour.

Not your BFF

I’m NOT the kind of coach who’s your BFF, but I’m not the bogeyman either. I’m your ally in love and a stand for the relationship you want to create. This means that I'll risk your approval in service to your dreams. At times, this will feel uncomfortable for both of us, but I guarantee that it will lead to better sex and more love in the end ;)

Not your guru

I’m NOT the “just think positive...everything is love and light” woo woo guru coach. You're a rich and complex being, and a head in the clouds approach to growth is an insult to the complexity of your human experience down here on Earth. I'm a two feet planted firmly on the ground kind of coach who draws on the wisdom of Tantrik spirituality and neuroscience to get you results in your sex and love life.

My commitment to you

Saying yes to a coaching relationship is a courageous act of self-love that deserves respect. If you're a yes, I commit to being:

- An assertive yet compassionate liaison between you and your blindspots.

- An ally who will challenge your thinking, keep you honest, and hold you accountable.

- A ride or die who creates the safe space you need to fully fall apart and come back to life.

If stories and credentials are your thing. Find mine here.

Your 1st class boarding pass

to better sex and more love.

01.
Schedule free consult

In this zero pressure call, you'll tell me about your needs.

02.
Enroll in a coaching program

...designed for your specific support/skill needs.

03.
Enjoy better sex and more love

No more struggling to be seen, heard, and met.

Take the first step now by scheduling a call.

New MO

The Universe doesn't make mistakes, it makes magic—
aka you.

You’re a fucking miracle...a unique expression of life happening exactly once. Do you know how perfect everything had to be, for you to be you, here and now? Stop denying the magic that is you by disappearing yourself in relationship!

Love needs all of you—not some porn star, super hero, or Betty Crocker version of you...ALL OF YOU. Turning it up or down to maintain connection or avoid conflict will inevitably sabotage your experience of sex and love.

You're highly independent and gritty AF, and that has gotten you far. The question is...will you channel that grit toward creating a deeply satisfying relationship?

Remember, you don't have to go it alone. I'll teach you the art of appearing yourself in relationship. I've walked this walk, and I've got you...all of you.

Better sex and more love is closer than you think. When you're ready, here are the steps:

01. Schedule a call
02. Enroll in a coaching program
03. Enjoy better sex and more love

"Working with Vega is what I'd hoped traditional therapy would be like — workable, doable, but also magical."
~ Lauren

Position, Company name

"Vega made it possible to communicate about our challenges and desires in a way that felt connecting and judgement free —our sex life has blossomed since."
~ Caitlin and Travis

Position, Company name

"Vega helped me to see that I could facilitate my partner showing up for me by showing up for myself."
~ Sam

Position, Company name

Coaching Programs

Which package is right for you?

Check out your three options below.

For you if you have a simple issue to investigate.
Single
Session
$ 250 USD

1 individual coaching call for singles/couples (virtual)

Includes:
1 hour coaching call
Use within 3 months of purchase
Support: by email
Schedule call
For you if you have a few issues to transform.
The Modern Couple
$ 5,400 USD

3 month customized program for singles/couples (virtual)

Includes:
1 hour coaching consultation
12 coaching calls @ 1 hr each
Weekly calls for 3 months
Support: by email, text
Recorded sessions for you to review
15% off add-on sessions
Resources delivered to your door
Custom audio practices
3 hour weekend intensive
2 hr VIP session for a friend
Schedule call
For you if you want to create your dream relationship.
The Visionary Couple
$ 12,750 USD

6 month customized program for singles/couples (virtual)

Includes:
1 hour coaching consultation
24 coaching calls @ 1 hr each
Weekly calls for 6 months
Support: by email, text, phone
Recorded sessions for you to review
20% off add-on sessions
Resources delivered to your door
Custom audio practices
3 hour weekend intensive
2 hr VIP session for a friend
Schedule call

Not sure what program is right for you? Schedule a consult below. We'll find the best solution for you...even if it means working with someone else.

Free audio course

How to fight smarter

Relationships can only survive conventional fighting strategies like defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling for so long. In How to fight smarter, you’ll learn a smarter way...so you feel clear, confident, and connected, even when shit gets hard.

For a regular dose of humor, sass, and inspiration...

you can find me on the gram @soullevellove

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