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Yes, there's more to love & it begins with more you — not less.

Do you struggle to communicate your needs and desires in relationship? Does it keep you from the expansive sex and love life you desire? I'll coach you to fully express yourself, so you can feel deeply alive and connected with your lover.

Be more you — not less.

Riddle me this...

How can we feel seen, heard, and valued as we are, if we show up as anyone other than ourselves? We can't. Yet our fear of punishment and/or rejection often leads many of us to be dishonest about who we are and what we need.

Unfortunately, this behavior costs us the satisfaction of passion and intimacy in our relationships. But it doesn't end there... inauthenticity also leads to:

01.

Questioning our enoughness.

04.

Betraying personal boundaries.

02.

Growing resentment and anxiety.

05.

Distrusting ourselves or partners.

03.

Feeling half alive.

06.

Unsatisfying sex life

Ready to feel deeply alive and connected in love?

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Every time we censor our truth, stuff our emotions, or deny our needs – we disappear ourselves.

When we say yes when we actually mean no, when we say we're fine but we're really feeling insecure or pissed off, when we say it doesn't matter when it sure as hell does - our sense of self slowly fades away, making it damn near impossible to create the connection we desire.

If you find yourself in this pattern, it doesn’t mean that you’re broken or that something’s wrong with you. It means you need a new MO. It's simple. If you want to feel deeply alive and connected in love, you've got to be more you.

But it's not easy. There's an art to being more you. You can't just do or say whatever the fuck you please and pass it off as authenticity. This gauche attempt at "speaking your truth" often creates division — not the understanding and collaboration you're ultimately looking for.

Being more you requires a sophisticated relationship with your body-mind. In other words, a clear sense of self. It also requires a refined ability to express your self with others — be it through words or behaviors.

Yep, there's work to be done to create this clarity and congruency. But the ROI is absolutely worth the time and energy. Why? Because the more you appear yourself in relationship, the more alive you become. And consequently... the more alive you become, the more available you are for deep connection.

Take away: Censoring your truth, stuffing your emotions, and denying your needs is a recipe for everything you're tired of settling for in relationship — like bad sex, broken record conflicts, and feelings of insecurity.

Bottom line: If you want to feel deeply alive and connected relationship, you must take responsibility for becoming more you in love.

"Working with Vega is what I'd hoped traditional therapy would be like — workable, doable, but also magical."
— Lauren
"Vega made it possible to communicate about our challenges and desires in a way that felt connecting and judgement free —our sex life has blossomed since."
— Caitlin and Travis
"Vega helped me to see that I could facilitate my partner showing up for me by showing up for myself."
— Sam

Being more you — not less, is your first class ticket the fuck out of love limbo.

When you be more you in relationship, your love life gets a serious upgrade:

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Feel at ease and alive in your body.

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Clear boundaries = more trust.

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Feel agency over your love life.

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Feel seen, heard, and valued.

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Less conflict = more play.

06.

Bowchickawowwow. Hello sexy time.

Ready for that relationship upgrade?

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Hi, I’m Jess Vega

Sex and love coach, Tantrika, and former saboteur d'amour.

Not your BFF

I’m NOT the kind of coach who’s your BFF, but I’m not the bogeyman either. I’m your ally in love and a stand for the relationship you want to create. This means that I'll risk your approval in service to your dreams. At times, this will feel uncomfortable for both of us, but I guarantee that it will lead to more you and more love in the end.

Not your guru

I’m NOT the “just think positive, everything is love and light” woo woo guru coach. You're a rich and complex being, and a head in the clouds approach to awakening and liberation tends to downplay the complexity of your human experience down here on Earth. I'm a two feet planted firmly on the ground kind of coach who draws on the wisdom of Tantrik spirituality and neuroscience to get you results.

My commitment to you

Saying yes to a coaching relationship is a courageous act of self-love that deserves respect. If you're a yes, I commit to being:

- An assertive yet compassionate liaison between you and your blindspots.

- An ally who will challenge your thinking, keep you honest, and hold you accountable.

- A ride or die who creates the safe space you need to fully fall apart and come back to life.

Find my story here.

Your 1st class boarding pass

Take these 3 simple steps to secure your ticket the fuck out of love limbo:

01.

Schedule a call

In this zero pressure 20 minute call, we'll figure out which of my programs best suits your needs.

02.

Enroll in a program

Get the support and proven techniques you need to be more you in love.

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Feel deeply alive and connected in love

No more struggling to be seen, heard, and valued in relationship. Enjoy the sex and love you always knew possible, yet seemed ever elusive — until now.

Take the first step now by scheduling a call.

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The Universe doesn't make mistakes, it makes magic –
aka you.

You’re enough. In fact, you’re a fucking miracle – a unique expression of life happening exactly once. Do you know how perfect everything had to be, for you to be you, here and now? Trying to comprehend the magic makes my brain go dumb.

More love wants to meet the magic that is you — it's the natural order of the Universe. But... you must be fully available to receive it. You must invest in being more you — not less. If you keep disappearing yourself in love, you’re bound to keep attracting the wrong person or pushing the right person away. You’re bound to continue to feel unseen, unheard, or unvalued in relationship.

Key point: Love needs all of you, not some porn star or Betty Crocker version of you, ALL OF YOU. Turning it up or down to please or accommodate as a means to earn or win connection will always sabotage love.

Here’s what I know about you… You’re tired of settling for less than you need and desire in relationship. You're tired of performing the disappearing act — it drains and disconnects you in love. You're ready to feel deeply alive and connected in love. You're ready for both expansive sex and committed love.

I get it. This reality can seem so elusive when the opposite has been the status quo for so long. But let me tell you... it's a legit love reality that you are worthy, deserving, and capable of creating for yourself.

I know you're the type who feels like you can or have to figure everything out on your own. You're highly independent and gritty AF, and that has gotten you far. But know that you don't have to go this one alone. I've got you.

When you're ready , here are the steps: 

  1. Schedule a call
  2. Enroll in a program
  3. Feel deeply alive and connected in love
"Working with Vega is what I'd hoped traditional therapy would be like – workable, doable, but also magical."
— Lauren
"Vega made it possible to communicate about our challenges and desires in a way that felt connecting and judgement free–our sex life has blossomed since."
— Caitlin and Travis
"Vega helped me to see that I could facilitate my partner showing up for me by showing up for myself."
— Sam

Which program is right for you?

- People who want a custom coaching experience typically opt for the private 1:1 coaching program with me.

- People who want 1:1 coaching, but want to test the waters first, typically enroll in my group coaching intensive.

Self-paced mini course (recorded audio)

How to fight smarter

$ 47

Most conflicts are preventable, and when they're not, it's possible to move through them with confidence, clarity, and connection.

  • Prerecorded audio (3.5 hr total)
  • Self-paced
  • Support: by email

Available for purchase

Group coaching intensive (Zoom)

Love by
design

$ 711

Kick the default patterns that cause disconnection and design an environment that makes giving and receiving love less complicated.

  • 3 hr live session/weekly
  • 3 weekend intimate group intensive
  • Support: by email, live

Enrollment closed.

Private coaching (Zoom)

1:1 or 1:2
coaching

Starting at $ 12k - 6k

Do you struggle to communicate your needs and desires in relationship? Does it keep you from the expansive sex life & intimate love you desire?

  • 75 min live session/weekly
  • 3-6 mo customized program
  • Support: by email, live, by text

Are we a fit? Schedule an enrollment interview below.

Not sure what program is right for you? Simply schedule a call, and we'll find the best solution for you, even if it means working with someone else.

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