Clear communication = better sex and more love

It's really that simple.

Tired of feeling unseen, unheard, or unmet in sex or love? I'll teach you how to communicate clearly so you can have better sex and more love in your current or future relationship.

Be more you — not less.

Riddle me this...

How can we ever feel seen, heard, and met in our relationships if we present ourselves as someone we're not? We can't.

Yet our fears of rejection or punishment often lead many of us to deny or be dishonest about who we are and what we want.

Sadly, this incongruence costs us the sweet satisfaction of the connection we crave. But it doesn't end there... it also leads to:

01.

Questioning our enoughness.

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Betraying personal boundaries.

02.

Growing resentment and anxiety.

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Distrusting ourselves or partners.

03.

Feeling disconnected from ourselves.

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Unsatisfying sex life

Ready for better sex and more love?

The disappearing act

Every time we censor our truth, stuff our emotions, or deny our needs—we disappear ourselves.

When we say yes when we actually mean no, when we say we're fine but we're actually feeling insecure, when we say it doesn't matter when it sure as hell does—our sense of self slowly fades away, making it damn near impossible for us to feel seen, heard, and met in sex and love.

If you find yourself in this pattern, it doesn’t mean that you’re broken or that something’s wrong with you. It means you need a new MO. It's simple. If you want to feel deeply alive and connected in partnership, you've got to be more you.

But it's not easy. There's an art to being more you. You can't just do or say whatever the fuck you please and pass it off as authenticity. This gauche attempt at "speaking your truth" often creates division—not the allyship and collaboration you're ultimately looking for in relationship.

Being more you requires a sophisticated relationship with your body-mind. In other words, a clear sense of self. It also requires a refined ability to express your self clearly—be it through words or body-language.

Yep, there's work to be done to create clarity and congruency, but the ROI is absolutely worth the time and energy. Why? Because the more you appear yourself in relationship, the more alive you become. And consequently... the more alive you become, the more available you are for deep connection.

Take away: Censoring your truth, stuffing your emotions, and denying your needs is a recipe for everything you're tired of settling for in relationship...unspoken desires in sex, broken record conflicts.. the list goes on.

Bottom line: If you want to experience better sex and more love in relationship, you must take responsibility for communicating who you are and what you want in relationship. The good news is you don't have to figure this out on your own. I can teach you how to communicate with confidence, even if right now that reality feels far away.

"Working with Vega is what I'd hoped traditional therapy would be like — workable, doable, but also magical."
~ Lauren

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"Vega made it possible to communicate about our challenges and desires in a way that felt connecting and judgement free —our sex life has blossomed since."
~ Caitlin and Travis

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"Vega helped me to see that I could facilitate my partner showing up for me by showing up for myself."
~ Sam

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Effective communication...
Your 1st class ticket the fuck out of love limbo.

Upgrades include:

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Feeling at ease and alive in your body.

04.

Clear boundaries = more trust.

02.

Feeling agency over your love life.

05.

Collaboration and allyship!

03.

Fewer conflicts = more play.

06.

Bowchickawowwow. Hello sexy time.

Ready for better sex and more love?

ME

Hi, I'm Jess Vega

Sex and love coach, Tantrika, and former saboteur d'amour.

Not your BFF

I’m NOT the kind of coach who’s your BFF, but I’m not the bogeyman either. I’m your ally in love and a stand for the relationship you want to create. This means that I'll risk your approval in service to your dreams. At times, this will feel uncomfortable for both of us, but I guarantee that it will lead to more you and more connection in the end ;)

Not your guru

I’m NOT the “just think positive...everything is love and light” woo woo guru coach. You're a rich and complex being, and a head in the clouds approach to awakening and liberation tends to downplay the complexity of your human experience down here on Earth. I'm a two feet planted firmly on the ground kind of coach who draws on the wisdom of Tantrik spirituality and neuroscience to get you results in your sex and love life.

My commitment to you

Saying yes to a coaching relationship is a courageous act of self-love that deserves respect. If you're a yes, I commit to being:

- An assertive yet compassionate liaison between you and your blindspots.

- An ally who will challenge your thinking, keep you honest, and hold you accountable.

- A ride or die who creates the safe space you need to fully fall apart and come back to life.

If stories and credentials are your thing. Find mine here.

Your 1st class boarding pass

Secure your ticket the fuck out of love limbo.

01.
Schedule a call

In this zero pressure call, we'll figure out which of my programs best suits your needs.

02.
Enroll in a program

Get the support and proven techniques you need to communicate who you are and what you want in relationship.

03.
Enjoy better sex and more love

No more struggling to be seen, heard, and met.

Take the first step now by scheduling a call.

New MO

The Universe doesn't make mistakes, it makes magic—
aka you.

You’re enough. In fact, you’re a fucking miracle—a unique expression of life happening exactly once. Do you know how perfect everything had to be, for you to be you, here and now? Trying to comprehend the magic makes my brain go dumb.

Better sex and more love wants to meet the magic that is you—it's the natural order of the Universe. But...you must be fully available to receive it. If you keep disappearing yourself in love, you’re bound to keep attracting the wrong person or pushing the right person away...you're bound to feel unseen, unheard, and unmet in your relationships.

Love needs all of you, not some porn star, super hero, or Betty Crocker version of you...ALL OF YOU. Turning it up or down to please or accommodate as a means to earn or win connection will inevitably sabotage your experience of sex and love.

Here’s what I know about you...

You're tired of settling for less than you need and desire in relationship. You're so over disappearing yourself and not getting the connection you desire. You're ready to experience the the deep and expansive sex and love you know possible but you haven't been able to communicate who you are and what you want with clarity, confidence, and ease.

Look...I get that you're the type who feels like you've got to figure everything out on your own. You're highly independent and gritty AF, and that has gotten you far... we're similar in this way. But please know that you don't have to go this one alone. I've walked this walk, and I've got you...all of you.

When you're ready , here are the steps:

01. Schedule a call
02. Enroll in a program and learn to communicate clearly
03. Enjoy better sex and more love

"Working with Vega is what I'd hoped traditional therapy would be like — workable, doable, but also magical."
~ Lauren

Position, Company name

"Vega made it possible to communicate about our challenges and desires in a way that felt connecting and judgement free —our sex life has blossomed since."
~ Caitlin and Travis

Position, Company name

"Vega helped me to see that I could facilitate my partner showing up for me by showing up for myself."
~ Sam

Position, Company name

Considerations

Which program is right for you?

Experience: Do you prefer casual, boutique, or luxe?Commitment: Are you feeling curious, dedicated, or devoted?Depth: Are you looking to make a shift, expand, or transform?

Casual, curious, shift
5 session
$ 1,750 USD

5 session package for singles/couples

Includes:
30 min consultation
5 coaching calls @ 1 hr each
Use within 3 months of purchase
Support: by email
Recorded sessions for you to review
20% off add-on sessions
Surprise resources delivered to your door
Custom audio practices
VIP session for a  friend
Weekend intensive (in person if USA)
Enroll now
Boutique, dedicated, expansion
3 month
$ 5,400 USD

3 month customized program for singles/couples

Includes:
30 min consultation
12 coaching calls @ 1 hr each
Weekly calls for 3 months
Support: by email, text
Recorded sessions for you to review
15% off add-on sessions
Surprise resources delivered to your door
Custom audio practices
VIP session for a  friend
Weekend intensive (in person if USA)
Enroll now
Luxe, devoted, transformation
6 month
$ 12,750 USD

6 month customized program for singles/couples

Includes:
30 min consultation
24 coaching calls @ 1 hr each
Weekly calls for 6 months
Support: by email, text, phone
Recorded sessions for you to review
20% off add-on sessions
Surprise resources delivered to your door
Custom audio practices
VIP session for a  friend
Weekend intensive (live if USA based)
Enroll now

Not sure what program is right for you? Schedule a consult below. We'll find the best solution for you...even if it means working with someone else.

Free audio course

How to fight smarter

Relationships can only survive conventional fighting strategies like defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling for so long. In How to fight smarter, you’ll learn a smarter way...so you feel clear, confident, and connected, even when shit gets hard.

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