It's that simple.
Tired of feeling unseen, unheard, or unmet in sex or love? I'll teach you how to express yourself with confidence & compassion so you can have better sex and more love with your partner.
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Riddle me this...
How can we ever feel seen, heard, and met in our relationships if we present ourselves as someone we're not?
We can't! Yet our fears of rejection or punishment lead many of us to deny or be dishonest about who we are and what we want.
Sadly, this leads to:
Rarely feeling seen, heard, or met.
Deception, lies, and cheating.
Thinking you're too much/not enough.
Unhealthy anger and frequent conflict.
Feeling resentment, anxiety, and stress.
Disconnection, breakup or divorce
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Every time we censor our truth, stuff our emotions, or deny our needs—we disappear ourselves.
When we say yes when we actually mean no, when we say we're fine but we're actually feeling insecure, when we say it doesn't matter when it sure as hell does—our sense of self slowly fades away, making it damn near impossible for us to feel seen, heard, and met in sex and love.
If you find yourself in this pattern, it doesn’t mean that you’re broken or that something’s wrong with you. It means you need a new MO. It's simple. If you want to experience true satisfaction in your relationship, you must appear yourself in relationship. This means you must:
1) Recognize and accept who you are.
2) Speak who you are and what you want into existence. Aka assertively communicate your needs/desires in relationship.
I get it...it isn't easy...the fear of punishment or rejection can be a real bitch. But the ROI is absolutely worth it, because the more you appear yourself in relationship, the more alive you become; And consequently... the more alive you become, the more you'll be seen, heard, and met in sex and love.
Want more good news? You don't have to go it alone. I can teach you the art of appearing yourself in relationship, even if that reality feels far away right now.
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Assertive communication...
Your 1st class ticket to better sex and more love.
Upgrades include:
Feeling seen, heard, and met.
More honesty, trust, and security.
Knowing that you're enough.
Fewer conflicts and faster repair.
Feeling confident and easeful.
More connection and collaboration.
Ready for a truly satisfying relationship?
Hi, I'm Jess Vega
Relationship coach, Tantrika, and former saboteur d'amour.
Not your BFF
I’m NOT the kind of coach who’s your BFF, but I’m not the bogeyman either. I’m your ally in love and a stand for the relationship you want to create. This means that I'll risk your approval in service to your dreams. At times, this will feel uncomfortable for both of us, but I guarantee that it will lead to better sex and more love in the end ;)
Not your guru
I’m NOT the “just think positive...everything is love and light” woo woo guru coach. You're a rich and complex being, and a head in the clouds approach to growth is an insult to the complexity of your human experience down here on Earth. I'm a two feet planted firmly on the ground kind of coach who draws on the wisdom of Tantrik spirituality and neuroscience to get you results in your sex and love life.
My commitment to you
Saying yes to a coaching relationship is a courageous act of self-love that deserves respect. If you're a yes, I commit to being:
- An assertive yet compassionate liaison between you and your blindspots.
- An ally who will challenge your thinking, keep you honest, and hold you accountable.
- A ride or die who creates the safe space you need to fully fall apart and come back to life.
Your 1st class boarding pass
to better sex and more love.
In this zero pressure call, you'll tell me about your needs.
...designed for your specific support/skill needs.
No more struggling to be seen, heard, and met.
Take the first step now by scheduling a call.
The Universe doesn't make mistakes, it makes magic—
aka you.
You’re a fucking miracle...a unique expression of life happening exactly once. Do you know how perfect everything had to be, for you to be you, here and now? Stop denying the magic that is you by disappearing yourself in relationship!
Love needs all of you—not some porn star, super hero, or Betty Crocker version of you...ALL OF YOU. Turning it up or down to maintain connection or avoid conflict will inevitably sabotage your experience of sex and love.
You're highly independent and gritty AF, and that has gotten you far. The question is...will you channel that grit toward creating a deeply satisfying relationship?
Remember, you don't have to go it alone. I'll teach you the art of appearing yourself in relationship. I've walked this walk, and I've got you...all of you.
Better sex and more love is closer than you think. When you're ready, here are the steps:
01. Schedule a call
02. Enroll in a coaching program
03. Enjoy better sex and more love
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Which package is right for you?
Check out your three options below.
Session
1 individual coaching call for singles/couples (virtual)
3 month customized program for singles/couples (virtual)
6 month customized program for singles/couples (virtual)
Not sure what program is right for you? Schedule a consult below. We'll find the best solution for you...even if it means working with someone else.
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Relationships can only survive conventional fighting strategies like defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling for so long. In How to fight smarter, you’ll learn a smarter way...so you feel clear, confident, and connected, even when shit gets hard.
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