You don't have a love problem, you have a self-abandonment habit.
I hear you, you're ready to be seen, heard, and met in your beauty your depth. The question is—are you willing to face the ways you’re still standing in your own way?
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The cost of self-abandonment
When you choose to betray yourself, you also choose...
Feeling unseen, unheard, unmet
Deception, lies, cheating
Feeling like you're too much/not enough
Frequent tension and conflict
Feeling resentful, lonely, and unfufilled
Disconnection, breakup, divorce
Break the pattern now
Every time you censor your truth, ignore your emotions, or deny your needs—you abandon yourself.
I get it. Fully owning who you are and what you want when dating or in a relationship is scary. The thought of them pulling away, having to start over again, or being alone forever can feel overwhelming. But the alternative? Settling for a partner and life you never fully wanted—that’s far worse.
No amount of self-abandonment will stop a man from abandoning you. In fact, it invites it. Men take their cues from us. We can’t expect a man to meet our standards or honor our boundaries if we continually disregard our own.
If you want to be deeply met by a quality man, you have to start by meeting yourself first. But figuring out what that means for you isn’t always intuitive. It’s hard to see the depths of your patterns, let alone change them, when you're fully steeped in them.
You need an ally—and a plan.
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When you stop self-abandoning
Feel seen and heard
Feel celebrated and cherished
Feel powerful and confident
Feel safe in your body
Drip with pleasure and delight
Feel deeply satiated by love
Break the pattern now
Hi, I'm Jess Vega
Relationship Coach, Tantrika, and Registered Nurse. I get on well with truth seekers, deep thinkers, and beauty makers.
I was born into a family rife with mental illness, drug abuse, and poverty. Abandoining myself was a useful survival strategy for little me, but this behavior soon became a pattern that unwittingly sabotaged my ability to experience the sex, love, and relationships I wanted.
I've been mapping the connection between authenticiy and connection ever since. I've learned a lot, but if I had to sum it up in one sentence, I'd say...you can never feel loved as you are if you show up as someone you're not.
Not your BFF
I’m NOT the kind of coach who’s your BFF, but I’m not the bogeyman either. I’m your ally in love and a stand for the relationship you want to create. This means that I'll risk your approval in service to your dreams. At times, this will feel uncomfortable for both of us, but I guarantee that it will lead to more you and more connection ;)
Not your guru
I’m NOT the “just think positive...everything is love and light” woo woo guru coach. You're a rich and complex being, and a head in the clouds approach to growth is an insult to the complexity of your human experience down here on Earth. I'm a two feet planted firmly on the ground kind of coach who draws on the wisdom of Tantrik spirituality and hard science to get you results.
My commitment to you
Saying yes to a coaching relationship is a courageous act of self-love that deserves respect. If you're a yes, I commit to being:
- An assertive yet compassionate liaison between you and your blindspots.
- An ally who will challenge your thinking, keep you honest, and hold you accountable.
- A ride or die who creates the safe space you need to fully fall apart and come back to life.
How to get started
It's simple
✧ Free 15 min call to get As to your Qs
✧ 4 calls monthly, resources to support your success
✧ Feel seen, heard, and met
Take the first step and...
Your dreams need you to lead!
You’re a unique expression of life happening exactly once. The Universe didn't bring you here so you could settle for less. You were meant to feel powerful and deeply satiated by love.
If you feel excitement but also a mixture of fear and doubt as you read this, just know that it's normal and a good sign. It means that your dreams matter to you.
And when you're ready to turn those dreams into reality, I'll be here to walk beside you as your greatest ally in love.
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Rise of the Queen
Over the next 12 weeks, you’ll learn the psychological frames, somatic and linguistic tools, and straight up magic you need to embody your Queen and conjure your deepest dreams—aka your King—a quality man who walks not behind or in front of you, but beside you, into a shared vision of the future.
Program features
Mapping session (x1, remote)
• 90 min deep dive session that will set the stage for your success
One-on-one coaching sessions (weekly, remote)
• 12+ hrs of undivided attention and support toward your goals
Mini coaching sessions (weekly, as needed)
• Video and voice messaging for support in-between sessions
Support documents
• Reference and integrate new frames and tools you've learned
Personalized gifts
• Curated presents to aid Her Majesty during her rise
A Queen is a woman who:
✓ Wields power with prowess.
✓ Possess range and depth in her expression.
✓ Feels safe and free in her body.
✓ Commits to love in the face of fear.
✓ Turns her dreams into reality.
Your success guaranteed
I'm a stand for the relationship you want to create. If by the end of the program you haven't learned how to embody your Queen despite your commitment to the process, I'll continue to work with you until you have.
Book your free 15 min consultationHow to fight smarter
Relationships can only survive conventional fighting strategies like defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling for so long. In How to fight smarter, you’ll learn a smarter way...so you feel clear, confident, and connected, even when shit gets hard.
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